Embracing the Shadow

I just returned from Debbie Ford’s The Shadow Process Workshop and man, am I whooped! This 2.5 day intensive uncovers the shadow, or those parts of ourselves that we’ve disowned either because we think they’re bad or we find them shameful. The idea behind shadow work is that if you uncover and embrace all aspects of yourself, without judgment, you become more whole. When we deny parts of ourselves they can come up in unexpected and unpredictable ways.

Take for example the numerous sex scandals by those that are of higher moral standards such as religious leaders and clergy. Those that are of a higher moral authority are often the ones caught in sexual abuse or sexual misconduct. Because they’ve denied parts of themselves it erupts in a destructive manner.

It’s when we are out of balance of our shadow that it begins to control our life. What we resist persists. If we learn to honor it, find the gifts within it and embrace it we become less triggered when we see it in others. Think about the things in your life that upset you, what is it about those things that gets your blood boiling? Is that some part of yourself that you have denied? Is that some part of yourself that you are ashamed of? Can you find the gifts in those qualities? If not in those specifics, can you find the gifts in their opposite? For instance, if being lazy is a trigger for you, what’s the gift of being lazy? One could say finding time for yourself, relaxation, recharging your battery, maintaining a healthy work-life balance. When you shift your perspective and are able to see the gift in a once-denied trait you can embrace it without judgment or shame.

Let’s take a harder example. How can we find any way to embrace racism? It’s hard to find the benefit of being a racist so what’s it’s opposite? By not being a racist, one can become more accepting, tolerant and open to others of a different background then their own. If it weren’t for racism maybe we’d be less aware of other people’s struggles and challenges.

So here’s some tips on how to begin to uncover, understand and embrace your shadow:

Step 1: What triggers you?

What really gets under your skin? What can you not stand in other people? What is a trait or personality that you just can’t deal with? Notice if this is something that started in childhood. Were you told at an early age that this was wrong, bad or otherwise unacceptable? Really list out all the negative traits associated with what triggers you. If you need help, ask yourself, what kind of person would do that?

Step 2: Own it

Take those negative traits and repeat the phrase, “I am x” or “I am that” while looking at yourself in the mirror. Really let the words resonate within you. It will be hard to even say the words out loud at first. Trust the process, let it unfold before you.

Step 3: Find the gifts

Now take a look at your list and see if you can find the benefits for those traits. If you struggle with that, then find the gifts in their opposite. Now really breathe in those gifts, let go of judgment, shame and guilt. Know that by embracing these so called negative traits within yourself you are fully able to step into who you really are. You will gain more tools in your toolbox with which to manifest all that you desire. And once you are able to embrace these traits you will be less triggered when you see them in others.

One of the key tenants of the shadow work states that we must stop trying to fix an unwanted part of ourselves and instead, accept and love it.

If you would like to learn more about the shadow I would highly recommend Debbie Ford’s Dark Side of the Light Chasers book. It is the quintessential guide to the shadow with practical examples and exercises to help uncover those parts of yourself that you may have been denying.

My wish for you is that you fully embrace your beautiful, radiant, divine light. For it is only through the darkness that we see the light.

Sending love to those parts of you that are hiding in the dark,

Francie

P.S. After I wrote the above article, I hosted a Reiki Healing Night where we discussed the Shadow in more detail, including a Shadow meditation. Enjoy!

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The Confusion of Going Gray

No, I don’t mean that you become mentally confused when you get older. That’s a topic for a different day. Today I want to discuss the implications of going gray as a female and how society responds.

My sister and I decided to stop dyeing our hair together about two years ago. Speaking for myself, the cost, upkeep and health of my hair were the main reasons why I ditched the hair dye. One of my very wise girlfriends told me when she turned 40, “it was my birthday present to myself, to stop worrying about hiding the gray”. It struck me then that I had placed an exorbitant amount of energy towards covering up those nasty gray hairs. And being predominantly gray, if I missed my hair dye appointment, I looked like a raccoon with a bad hangover. It was no small amount of stress that kept me coloring away my grays. It wasn’t that I was fearful of looking older it was what society might think if I decided to not care anymore as some have said.

I am now 45 and have found that my decision to stop dyeing my hair has turned into an odd social experiment. And I’m in the minority. According to a 2008 study from Clairol, 75% of American women dye their hair. For the majority of women, their hair represents the most defining part of themselves. It reflects their style, their signature look and more importantly, their confidence. We place a lot of pressure on our follicles. They must perform on command! When a curl is askew it turns into a horrendously bad hair day leaving us feeling less than our awesome selves especially when face to face with others. If every hair is in place then we feel like we can conquer the world, no mountain is insurmountable with a perfect head of hair! Hmph.

Back to the social experiment.

I find that men and women react to my choice in not dyeing my hair very differently. First, the men. They are surprised to find that a woman with gray hair can still be sexy. (This is a weird thing for me as I’ve never considered myself to be outwardly sexy or overtly sexual.) It’s like they are surprised to find that their libido doesn’t shrivel up and fall off if they look amorously towards a woman who is clearly past child bearing age. I get everything from, “Wow, I really like your gray,” to “I think it looks really good on you”, to the then, not so pleasant, “you should really dye your hair” and the dreaded, “you look like my mom”; the latter from a man six years my junior. Nice. I find it odd that I get so many comments from men about my gray, more so than I ever got when I dyed my hair. It’s like they have to comment to give me their permission that what I’m doing is acceptable to the male gender and the human race at large! Thank you. I was aiming for that. NOT!

Now for the women. I find their reactions fall into two camps. One camp are the women that look at me longingly as if to say through their eyes, “oh, if only I too could stop dyeing my hair!” I’ve had women offer up numerous, unsolicited excuses for not ditching the dye, as if I’m judging them for continuing to dye, “as soon a I’m retired I will stop dyeing my hair,” or “I would stop dyeing my hair but I’ll look too old”, or some such shenanigans. To all the women out there. I love you. I don’t care what you do to your hair. My decision was just that, mine. I wish you the courage and strength to make whatever decision you want that feels right for you, regardless of how others will perceive you.

Then there’s the other camp. The camp that lurks in the darker corners and comes out only to feed on the weak when they are in need of blood. From this faction I hear  whispers of comments like, “she just doesn’t care about herself anymore,” or similarly, “it’s like she’s given up trying to look good.” And a few that are desperately trying to curb my wayward ways encourage me with “why don’t you dye it blue or purple or something cool like that?” And if you think I’m exaggerating, talk to your silver haired female friends. I’m sure they’ll fill your ears with stories that will make your mouth gape  aghast.

So then the sociologist in me kicks in and asks, why does my gray hair trigger so many visceral reactions in others? Luckily, I’m secure enough in myself and love myself enough to not take these comments personally. Well, except for the “look like my mom” bit, that one stung. But for the most part, I just collect data in my head as I observe people’s utter amazement at seeing a gray haired female in her forties. In collecting the data and processing it for myself, here’s what I learned:

  1. People’s reaction is a direct reflection of themselves: This is true no matter what subject we’re talking about. Gray hair, baseball, politics, diet, clothes, sugar, religion, race, gender, you name it! Whatever you express whether positive, negative or neutral is directly how you feel about yourself or rather, a deep-rooted fear that you have about yourself. “Well if I stopped dyeing my hair, then it’d be like I stopped caring about myself.” “If I let the gray out I won’t be taken seriously at work”. Yes, you might be discriminated against. Yes, you might not be asked out on as many dates (the jury’s still out on that one), yes, you might look at yourself and hate the older face looking back at you.  Are you really going to tell me that you’re life’s happiness or feeling of purpose or direction is dictated by the color of your hair? What kind of sense does that make? Especially when you won’t even see your hair often unless you stare in a mirror all day long.
  2. My personal choices are not here to please others: This is the punk rocker in me. I rarely have cared what others have thought of me and I’m sure as heck not going to start as I stare 50 in the face. No sir. It’s very liberating to be free of other’s opinions. And I know, I’m able to be freer because I’m no longer in the corporate world. I get it, trust me, I get it. I remember being turned down for a much deserved promotion because I didn’t look “professional enough”. I know society is still hellbent on outer appearances. But here’s the key, why should you let it affect you? And if they do discriminate, call them out on it, that’s the only way we can affect change.
  3. Dudes don’t get the same scrutiny: I know this isn’t news. And I know that you know that women are more heavily scrutinized by their outward appearance than men. We all know this. Then why is it still OK? I can’t imagine some of the things said to me being said to a male counterpart. Even the positive compliments, “I like your gray hair, it looks good on you.” I don’t think it even occurs to men or women to look at a gray haired man and say this. Why not? Is it because we value men for something other than their hair color? That their hair color does not define them or tell us about who they are and how much they care or don’t care about themselves? Nonsense. Here’s my advice to both of the sexes, if you wouldn’t say it to a man, you probably shouldn’t say it to a woman and vice versa.

So there you have it. My exploration into the social constructs of being a gray haired female. I would love to hear your stories! Share them in the comments below.

And as always, be gentle with yourself and others. And remember to think before you speak!

Many blessings to you!

Francie

Congratulations! You’re an Empath! Now what??

Congratulations! So you were just told you’re an empath, a sensitive or clairsentient. Wahoo! Now, what the heck does that mean?

We are all born with psychic gifts. Some of us see things more clearly often called ‘clairvoyance’, some of us just know things without knowing exactly how we know them, ‘claircognizance’ and some of us hear things whether audibly or in our mind’s ear, ‘clairaudio’. And some of us feel things around us, this is clairsentience or being an empath.

I wrote about this in an earlier blog, Getting Out From Under the World, and thought I’d add some additional updates, tips and information that might aid in the newly discovered empath.

First, here’s how you know you’re an empath:

  1. You feel energy and emotions around you. You could walk into a building or room and know that you have to walk right back out. You might not know why, you just know that something ‘doesn’t feel right’.
  2. You change moods on a dime. You could be fine one minute, then super angry, sad or anxious the next with no rational explanation. That’s usually because you are absorbing the energy in the space or the people that you’re around. Notice who you’ve been interacting with that day and see if you start to mimic their emotions.
  3. You feel drained. Uncharacteristically tired. Like all you want to do is shut out the world and curl up in bed. Almost as if the world is just ‘too much’ right now.
  4. You’ve been told, ‘you’re too sensitive‘ your entire life. From being overly emotional at commercials to not being tough enough when stuff gets real. You’ve heard it time and time again and usually not in a positive light.
  5. Tummy troubles. When you’re an empath you also absorb the energy from the food and drinks that you ingest. That’s why most empaths avoid things like meat, dairy and other foods that carry lower energy. If you’re unsure of what’s making your tummy rumble, visit a naturopath and ask to have a food sensitivity test done.
  6. Crowds give you the willies. Do you avoid crowds like the plague? Concerts, movie theaters, shows, plays, etc. can leave you feeling out of sorts as you are constantly absorbing the energy of the masses around you.
  7. You’re drawn to the healing arts. Are you a healer, massage therapist, hair stylist, medical professional or feel drawn towards helping others in some capacity? Most empaths feel compelled to help others given their gigantic hearts. They’re also the shoulders that get cried on the most.

Sound familiar? Welcome to the club! You may not experience all of the above but if you have experienced half or more than chances are, you’re an empath!

OK, so now what?

Well, you have a few options. First option: you can crawl up in a ball and never leave your house. If that doesn’t sound appealing then I would recommend the secondary option which revolves around regular protection and clearing practices as well as beefing up your light source and stepping into your empowered self.

Protection rituals are important when you’re an empath as they create shields or barriers so that you’re not constantly absorbing the energy that surrounds you. Clearing on a regular basis ensures that you don’t get ‘too filled up’ with other people’s junk.

  • White light bubble. As you wake up in the morning, before you put your first foot on the ground imagine a beautiful white bubble completely surrounding you. This white bubble can take on different colors if you wish and different shapes. I like to think of it like I’m in a little egg. Nothing can penetrate it’s layers but love and light. State this intention when you wake up; “I now surround myself with a white light of protection. Nothing but light and love may penetrate it. It will surround me throughout my day today”. If you can’t visualize that’s fine, just intend for it to be there and it will be!
  • MichaelArchangel Michael. Get to know this dude. He’s awesome. He’s here to help guide and protect us but he won’t intervene unless we ask for his help. So anytime you’re in those uncomfortable circumstances where you feel not-so-fun energy, call on Archangel Michael to be by your side to shield and protect you. It can be as simple as saying to yourself “Archangel Michael, please protect and shield me right now”. Easy peasy.
  • Sage smoke. Yep, it’s burning sage. Yep, it’s New Agey. Yep, it works! Get a white or regular sage smudge stick at a health food store or a New Age shop and burn it carefully in your work and home. I typically have something underneath it to catch the ash. Remember, most buildings have sprinklers so don’t overdo it with the smoke! Hold your arms out and sage yourself, top to bottom, bottom to top, under your arms, under your feet, you name it. Wash it all away with sage. Set the intention of clearing away the energy that is no longer needed and replacing it with light and love. And the jury is still out on sage sprays. I’m not sure they’re as effective as the smoke itself. You can try both and see which one you’d prefer.
  • Sea salt baths. There’s just something about sea salt that removes other people’s energy from your own. It’s a great tool, easy and relaxing. I would recommend you do this weekly, 1/2 cup to a full cup.
  • Black Tourmaline crystal. Get a nice chunky piece of this guy and place him in your pocket. It absorbs negative energy around you so that you don’t! Don’t forget to cleanse it before your first use with sage or moonlight or you can bury it in the dirt over night. Do this at least every month as they get full too!
  • Give yourself a dry bath. As empaths, your hands act like sponges. You absorb and dry_bathpull in energy through your palms and over time that can travel up your arms and sit up on your shoulders and neck. Sound familiar? Sometimes shoulder/neck pain isn’t just from typing on the computer all day! This technique is taught in traditional Reiki classes. It can be used by anyone at any time, especially after shaking someone’s hand or being in contact with folks who may be a drain on your energy. Take your right hand and sweep down your left arm starting at your left shoulder then sweeping down to your left fingertips. You can blow out air once you hit your left fingertips as a way of blowing out the energy that you’ve collected. Do the same with your other arm, left arm to clear the right arm starting from the shoulder and sweeping down the right arm to the fingertips with a breath. Have the intention of clearing out energy that is not yours while doing the motion.
  • Cord cutting is something that is a bit more advanced. You can try it on yourself but you may need a healing practitioner to aid you with this. We can have cords attached to us from people, places, events, traumas and dramas in our life. Sometimes the cords can be healthy, positive bonds, sometimes, not so much. For the unhealthy ones (don’t worry if you aren’t sure which is which, we can never cut cords of love) we can ask Archangel Michael to use his sword to cut them, we can also try cutting them ourselves. Take your right hand and move from the top left shoulder diagonally through your body to your right hip. Do the same with the opposite hand, move diagonally from the shoulder to the opposite hip. Have the intention of cutting any cord(s) that no longer serve your highest good. The reason why you might need help with his is to 1) help you understand why the cord formed in the first place 2) how to prevent it from re-attaching.
  • Grounding is key. Are you familiar with grounding electrical wires? When there’s a ‘hot’ circuit you need to ground it for the current to flow properly. Guess what, we are wired in a similar way, like an electrical current! Sometimes we get too ‘hot’ and need to ground our energy down into the earth. This is especially key for those that get lost in the clouds and can’t determine which is their energy vs. someone else’s. It’s a good practice to do on a weekly basis if not daily. I’ve created a guided meditation video to help with this.

And finally, once you become a bit more aware, stable and in control, it’s time to learn about the ‘gift’ part of your gift. In this Message for Empaths video you’ll learn how to express the love that you have outwardly vs. being a sponge for everything around you. You were not meant to be the world’s punching bag, you were meant to shine your beautiful big heart out into the world.

I hope this helps! I’ll be teaching Empath Classes soon if you’d like to learn more and practice in a group setting. Check out my website for details.

As always, I send you light, love and many blessings!

Francie

2018 A Resurgence of the Feminine

Happy 2018! I’m sure a lot of you are relieved to say goodbye to 2017 as it was more than a bit bumpy for most. We saw a lot of upsetting things in the world around us. It was a very divisive time and unfortunately, there’s still more to come in 2018. But take heart! More and more light is coming in which will dispel the negativity and the darkness that surrounds us. Below are the major themes that I’ve been sensing for 2018 and some practical and necessary steps that each one of us can take to help bring in more light to an already darkened world.

Being victimized doesn’t mean you need to remain a victim

This is a theme that is a carry over 2017. I wrote more about it in my Taking Back Your Power article a few months back. Stuff happens to all of us. We are insulted, abused, hurt on many levels, some of us on a regular basis. While we don’t choose to be victimized we have the choice on whether or not to remain a victim. When we call ourselves a ‘victim’ we give the person that victimized us our power. They might not be actively victimizing us but we can still feel like it long after the incident has passed. So take a conscious, concerted effort to separate the ‘act’ from the ‘persona’ of being a victim. Something happened to you, not through you. Meaning, something happened to your outer, physical, human you, while the big You, with a capital ‘Y’ remained untouched. It is your choice how deeply you will let something affect you. Find your inner strength, find your inner power and use what happened to you as a vehicle for making you stronger, not weaker.

So within, so without

Over the last several weeks I’ve been hearing the phrase ‘so within, so without‘ during client sessions. It’s beautiful in it’s simplicity. Whatever we are dealing with within is a reflection of the world around us. Meaning, if you have chaos, trauma or anxiety in your immediate external world, i.e., family life, work, health, etc. then it’s because you have chaos, trauma or anxiety within your internal world. Likewise, if you have peace within, your life will be pretty peaceful. Whatever we see around us is a reflection of what’s going on within.

Take a hoarder as an example. If someone hoards and surrounds themselves with objects to the point of chaos and unhealthy conditions it’s usually because they have chaos and unhealthy mental perspective on themselves. The physical hoarding, their home, their environment is a direct mirror of what’s going on inside of them. If we take an honest look around us and see what’s not working well or what doesn’t bring us peace, think about that as something to work on internally. If you have a boss that is difficult to communicate with, are there things that you struggle to communicate? If you have a child that is acting out, has high anxiety and difficulty focusing, do you also have this tendency? Similarly, if your home is calm, peaceful and stable, do you feel calm, peaceful and stable within yourself? As Ghandi stated, “If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him.” (Source NY Times)

Instant manifestation

Another major theme of the year is seeing things manifest instantly. Thoughts and ideas that would take sometimes years or months to come to fruition are only taking weeks or even days. Pay close attention to what you want to have in your life and in the world and turn away from the things you do not desire. Whatever you think and feel will come back at you, seemingly instantly.

Tools like vision boarding, journaling and watching The Secret would be a good ways to start off the year and help you hone in on what you’d like to see manifest.

The feminine within

It doesn’t take a psychic to see that the power of the feminine is making a resurgence in our world. With the historic Golden Globes and the #MeToo and #TimesUP movements, we’re seeing a rise of the feminine collective. Louder, stronger, more focused voices are being heard and change is being made. Within each of us we have a feminine and a masculine side. A creative, nurturing, heart-centered aspect as well as a practical, analytical and mind-centered aspect, the feminine and the masculine.

We will see a greater pull to come from a more heart-centered space, a more nurturing and compassionate space that is less driven by ego. We will increase our sensitivity and become more hyper-aware of imbalances, inequalities and will have less tolerance for them. We will have stronger voices to speak out against these inequalities to a world that is ready and ripe for change. Remember, as stated above, focus on what changes you want to see, not on the inequalities that have kept people feeling victimized.

A stronger connection to Mother Earth 

Mother Earth will also play a big role in this re-awakening. While in Sedona studying Light Language this past fall, I had a beautiful vision and message from Mother Earth. She showed me mountains then pointed towards my breasts and said your mountains are my mountains. She then showed me an image of a canal and said, your (birth) canals are my canals, then a rushing river followed by, your rivers are my rivers. Then I got the final message, you were made in MY image. I was immediately struck by the power and truth of this statement and have since been reflecting on it’s meaning. We are coming into greater understanding about our spiritual relationship with Mother Earth. She is not just a provider, a house for us to dwell or a meal for us to eat, she is our Mother. She supports and cares for us unconditionally. We will be called to spend more time in nature, to support more environmental causes and to develop a closer, more intuitive connection with Mother Earth so that we might get insight before a major shift or change or upheaval. You might start to hear trees and plants talk to you. You might get glimpses of Fairies or nature sprites. Listen, honor and trust the messages you are receiving as they are here to support, love and nurture you.


There will be more rapid fire changes this year. We have been on a trajectory since 2012 that isn’t going to be slowing down in 2018. If anything, things will be kicked up another notch. Remember to find your inner peace as it will help anchor the changes with love, insight and acceptance.

Sending you light, love and Reiki blessings!

Francie

Taking Back Your Power

Deep breaths. Just take one with me, slowly breathe in then out. Letting your shoulders drop and your mind focus on nothing but your breathing. There, a little better? I hope so! Studies have shown that if you take deep breaths your body is forced to relax so take a few deep breaths each hour and consciously let go of any tension you’re holding onto.

And there’s a LOT of tension and strain happening in our world right now. The news is getting more and more upsetting with mass shootings, natural disasters, scandalous behaviors, the threat of war and troubling politics. On the surface this can be overwhelming. What’s really happening on a deeper level is that these lower, fear-based energies are no longer compatible with the higher frequency of love and are getting exposed. Lights are shining on them, making people aware of their own fears and deep rooted issues. And why is that?  Because it’s finally time to release! No longer are we to be ruled by fear, those days are over. No longer is there negativity hiding in the shadows because there are no more dark spaces left to hide.

Going through the Birth Canal

We are moving collectively (albeit painfully and traumatically), towards a new level of self-awareness both as individuals and as a global society. We’re going through a birthing process of sorts and we’re in the height of labor which amounts to a lot of pain and fear but with an outlook of excitement, hope and love. That’s what we need to focus on, getting past the birthing canal and into our mother’s arms feeling safe, loved and utterly at peace.

Taking back your Power

Fear brings with it a feeling of helplessness and hopelessness. We feel dis-empowered to be able to fix things or make things better. This is a falsehood. Fear is only allowed to take root if you let it. Fear is important for our flight or fight response but it should not rule our lives and keep us feeling ‘less than’, afraid or victimized.

Do not allow fear to take hold for it is fleeting but spreads like a virus. Instead, when you find something that disturbs or troubles you, take positive action towards it. Lean into your fear, understand it. What makes you feel uneasy about the situation? Is there anything you can do right now to bring yourself peace and take back your power? Here’s some helpful tips I’ve used and shared with my clients on how to squelch fear:

  • Turn off altogether or limit the news you intake (quick 5 min. bites for the day to stay informed then turn it off!).
  • Remove the negative ninnies from your life. This can come from family, friends, Facebook, co-workers, roommates, etc. If anything or anyone makes you feel fearful or negative or ‘less-than’ then it’s probably time to distance yourself from it/them.
  • Find what brings you peace and keep that like a tool you keep in your front pocket for emergencies. This can be deep breathing like we did at the beginning of this article, being out in nature, saying a prayer, doing Reiki, yoga or other meditative exercises, taking a walk, talking with a friend, holding a baby, petting your cat. Whatever it is, have that as your go to when you feel fear creeping in. Try to find something that you can access and do immediately at any time of day or night. And if you can’t physically do something that brings you peace then mentally think about that activity and go through the motions in your mind, it will have the same effect.
  • Take positive action towards something that you truly believe will make the world a better place. If you have a need to support an organization, give of your time and/or money. If you are a Reiki practitioner, write all the things that you want to see in the world such as peace, love and understanding onto a piece of paper, turn on your Reiki hands and sit with the paper in between your hands. You can do this while watching TV, it doesn’t take much effort! You can send out a prayer, a quick text/Facebook or Twitter post or a mental image of something that you’d like to see happen in the world. Whatever you feel compelled to do, first check whether or not this action will bring you peace and if it is coming from a place of love. If it’s coming from a place of fear, then leave it for now until you can find a way to approach it from a heart-centered space.
  • Find what gives you strength whether it’s something that you’ve already accomplished in your past or something that you pride yourself with in the present. We’ve all been through difficult times and look, we’re still here! What doesn’t break us makes us stronger, right? Well only if we choose to. We can choose to be victims of our circumstances or we can choose to rise above them and allow that experience to make us stronger and shore up our inner power. Being victimized is not a choice, but remaining a victim is.

The long and the short of it is this: what’s happening in the world right now is part of a process that will help us evolve and grow from a place of fear to a place of love. New laws will be enacted, justice will be served, politicians will be held accountable, Mother Earth will be protected, peace and level heads will prevail, animals will be respected and protected as we become more aware of our connection to each other and with Mother Earth.

Sending you Reiki love and blessings!

Francie

 

Be Your Own Guru

There comes a point in everyone’s spiritual path where we need to look to own inner guru for answers. We all seek guidance external from ourselves from time to time, from experts in a particular field or friends that we know and trust. Ultimately, when it’s all said and done, the only one who can truly answer your questions is you. Why is that? Because only you know your truth.

Think back on a time when you received advice from an ‘expert’ be it a medical doctor or a therapist or a spiritual adviser or a friend. Did you feel that they weren’t quite hitting the mark? That maybe they were missing something because deep down you knew the answer lied in a different direction? And when you did receive the advice that was right for you did you feel as if bells went off within you signaling that yes, this is right for you? That’s because you’ve always known what path you’ve needed to take. Only you know what feels right, what resonates with you and what doesn’t.

Frequently I have clients that come in for a Reiki session or an Angel Card Reading and ask for guidance on career, health, relationships or other significant areas of their life. They look to me or to Reiki or Angels to answer all of their questions. Guess what, we can’t. Only you can do that. We can highlight areas to explore, point in a particular direction, give you some breadcrumbs to follow but ultimately, the answers you seek always lie within. I know, frustrating, isn’t it?

But think about it this way, you have your own, walking, talking guru built right inside you. You don’t need to spend a ton of money to get other people’s input because deep down you know what feels right for you. In almost every Angel Card reading I do the cards point the client towards doing inner work, meditation, spending time in nature, quieting the mind so that the soul can flourish allowing clarity to come. This can be challenging for the client to hear because they want someone else to tell them what to do. Where’s the fun in that? Think about your free will, would God, Angels, etc. respect your free will if they were to constantly give you all the answers you seek? Where’s the joy in learning your path, discovering your own truth, falling and picking yourself back up again?

So how do we listen to our inner guru?

This does require some practice. First get to know what feels right for you and what doesn’t. Certain people, places, environments, foods, etc. – learn what feels right for your soul, what makes you happy and what makes you want to run and hide. Start to get in touch with your inner guidance. If it’s something that doesn’t resonate with you it can feel like a gut-punch, anxiety or a need to escape. If it feels right then you’ll be at peace and never want to leave. It’s also important to distinguish between your own anxieties and those of others. See my Getting Out From Under The World and Feeling Anxious Lately? articles for details.

Secondly, meditate on your third eye chakra.  The third eye chakra houses our ability to see things clearly and is located above and between our eyebrows. This is also where our psychic senses can become unlocked, i.e., clairvoyance, clairaudio, claircognizance, clairsentience. This eye sees the truth in all things and contrary to art depictions, this eye doesn’t look out into the world, it actually faces us and looks within. Because in truth, all the answers we seek lie within. Meditate on an eye shape a few inches away from you in front of your forehead area and slowly envision this eye opening up to show a beautiful cobalt blue iris looking back at you. You’ll be amazed at the clarity that follows.

Sending you many blessings, light and love,

Francie

Feeling Anxious Lately?

Have you been feeling a bit ‘on-edge’ lately? Unable to sleep or focus? Are you finding that your internal plumbing ain’t working quite right? How about a sudden ringing in the ears? Or how about this one; the need to jump out of your skin and take off? If you experienced one or more of these you are not alone!

Many of my clients have been reporting high anxiety to the point of panic attacks since, guess, …… go on, I’ll wait ….. yes, you got it, late January of this year. Hmm….I wonder what happened around that time? Oh yes, the inauguration! Regardless of your politics or who you voted for we’re all experiencing a communal panic attack of sorts. There are feelings of fear, uncertainty and loss. You might not have these emotions yourself but I bet you’re feeling the collective emotional soup of everyone else.

See Empaths: Getting Out from Under The World

In addition to the significant change in our political world, there is a spiritual evolution also taking place at the same time. Some would argue that one spurred on the other. This spiritual evolution or ‘ascension’ as it is more commonly known, is a step forward for human kind. I know it doesn’t feel like we’re evolving, but trust me, we are. This ascension is an awakening of our higher selves, our spirituality, our connection to Source, God, etc. We are shedding our old snakeskin and are going through a re-birthing process where we become more awake, alive and connected to who we truly are. Think of it as if we’re waking up from the Matrix. We’re becoming unplugged from our routines and starting to see life and each other from a higher perspective.

You might begin to experience deep feelings of compassion. You might feel your heart ache when you witness tragedy or warm when you feel overwhelming love. You might have one or more of your psychic ‘clairs’ open up: clairaudience, clairvoyance, claircognizance, clairsentience. You might feel compelled to take action when you weren’t the type to do so before. You see yourself gravitating towards a healthier lifestyle, cutting out certain foods, drinks, people, environments, etc. because they’re just ‘too much’ for you to handle right now. That’s a good thing. You are listening to what your body and spirit need and are making the necessary adjustments.

So why is this this happening now?

Without getting too metaphysical, know that this has been planned for eons. This time, this critical time in our history has been in the works for thousands of years. We’ve been experimenting, seeing what it’s like to live on this beautiful blue planet we call home. We’ve had to lower our vibration in order to exist on this physical plane. We’ve had to ‘descend’ so that we can inhabit our physical bodies. Now the school bell has rung and it’s time to graduate into the next level.

What can I do about it?

Being aware that it’s taking place is a good first step. Knowing that you’re not going crazy, you’re not alone and that this is for your highest and greatest good is a great place to start. Secondly, be gentle with yourself. Know that you are hypersensitive right now so create safe places, boundaries, learn to say no and learn when you need to take breaks and be alone with your thoughts.

If you haven’t already, try some of the steps listed in my previous article on opening up your spirituality. Try to really get in touch with who you are. What makes you tick? Where do your passions lie? What does your soul yearn for? Follow that yearning, even if it’s just baby steps and the universe will match you. Have you been inspired to teach, paint, create, write, sing, dance, shout,  run, hike, get back into nature? As Nike says, just do it. Throw caution to the wind, follow your heart and you will never be led astray.

What comes next?

That’s up to all of us. The more we embrace our new higher divine selves the more we evolve as a whole. But it does take every one of us to make that effort. We need to love ourselves and each other deeply. We need to love the planet and all the living things on it. We need to have compassion radiating out of all our pores. We need to step out of our old ways of judgement, anger and fear and step into a new way of seeing the world through eyes of light and love. We’re opening up to new learning, new insight, new awareness beyond what we’ve been able to experience in the past. This is an exciting time, a period of great adjustment that requires more than a handful of patience and a healthy dose of awareness.

Sending you my light and love,

Francie

Finding a Bigger Purpose

Dear Lightworkers, Therapists, Life Coaches, Healing Practitioners and all Lightseekers:

It is time to take our clients to the next step in their development. During a recent meditation it became clear that in order to shed ego, in order for our internal lights to ignite, we need to find something bigger than ourselves to devote our energy. And this evolution must take place and quickly. We are at a pivotal point in our spiritual growth and we need as many lights turned on as possible.

 

Shifting the Focus

Most of our clients come to us for specific issues that are preventing them from being whole. Whether from an illness or a loss or other tragic event, they seek answers, peace and healing. We have spent valuable time and energy helping them achieve these goals. Now we need to shift our attention and theirs to something bigger, their life purpose. In many occasions their struggles become their own springboards into their divine destiny. For instance, I became a Reiki Master after my mother died of uterine cancer. I took that tragedy and grief and fueled that energy into helping others. And now I am fulfilling my life purpose, helping others heal and witnessing miracles nearly every day.

Getting Through the Tunnel

Find that key theme in their life, that main struggle that keeps reoccurring, that will be a clue into their divine purpose. A phrase I like to use in my practice is, ‘Get through your tunnel then help others through theirs’. For instance, a life-long struggle with addiction can transform a soul into a addiction therapist or counselor helping others through their struggle.  Or a long-term illness can transform that person into a healer themselves, helping others through their battles. I ask my clients and students frequently, why do you think this event, illness, tragedy happened to you? What were the life lessons to come of it? How do you feel about it now and can you show others how you got through it? They light up when I suggest they can help others. They need to be shown that they can make a difference in other’s lives, in the environment, in whatever it is they are passionate about. They need to be encouraged, supported and loved. We can do this.

Follow Your Bliss

Over the years I’ve seen a shift as my clients struggle with their identity. On the surface they are holding down good jobs, raising families, in happy relationships but on a deeper level they feel, intuitively, that there is something missing. They know there is something more that they need to be doing with their lives. They feel they are not in complete alignment with their divine purpose. But, they fear change. Fear that they will be thought of or seen differently. Fear that they will not succeed or they are not capable of being the powerful being that they know deep inside they are. This is where we come in. We need to hold the space and allow them to dream and explore and feel safe talking about their divine life purpose. It can start with a simple conversation about what do they love, what they are excited about. You might hear answers like yoga, flowers, my children, the environment, teaching, learning, etc. Talk through that, what does that look like? How can they take it from a dream to a reality?

It Starts in Steps

So many folks get discouraged when they realize that what they aspire to can take a lot more time, effort and money then they currently have available. Start small. Make lists. Prioritize the steps. Have a realistic time frame. For instance, if they are a software engineer but feel called to teach young adults, suggest volunteering at a local high school. Or have them get in touch with the guidance counselor and have an informal conversation about what that might look like. And they don’t have to quit their day job or take time away from their kids, they can be creative, there’s always an hour here or there a week that they can find to set aside for their life purpose. One of the miracles of life is that when we take action towards our life purpose the Universe rises up to meet us and matches that effort. Steps that on the surface may seem insurmountable are achieved in far less time with far less effort than previously thought.

When We Shed the Ego We Become Light

In taking time and energy to focus on their life purpose they can get out of their own head prisons and put forth efforts to better humanity, the environment, the world and the universe at large. When this happens their connection to Source, God, the Universe, their Divine Selves ignites and becomes a stronger, clearer channel. The more deeply connected they are to the Divine, the more they bring that energy here to this plain of existence on Earth.

I encourage you to think of this shift when working with your clients in helping them find their Divine Life’s Purpose. I feel an incredible amount of loving, supportive energy that is ready to embrace all of us on our paths. May you continue to do the loving work that you do and share your own lights with the Universe.

Thank you for all that you do.

I send you my light and love,

Francie

Top 10 Quick Start Spiritual Guide

OK – so you want to become more spiritual but, how do you start? There’s a plethora of books, movies, classes, lecturers, conferences, tools, techniques on a slew of topics, so much so that it can leave you feeling dizzy.  I’ve culled together my top 10 favorite go-tos, ones that I’ve used myself numerous times and ones that I often refer my clients to. I’ve chosen these based on their ease of use and accessibility – meaning, they’re quick and easy to understand without getting into the super esoteric topics that often leave the seeker more confused then when they started. I would love to hear what you have to say. Please leave your comments and share any other tools that you would add to this list. And now, here’s my top 10, in no particular order:

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The Secret: This is a great introduction to the Law of Attraction concepts. It’s easy to follow, a quick watch and told by charismatic leaders from a number of different backgrounds. You can also read the book too if you want more in-depth learning.

 

51v08qrxs6l-_sy300_What the Bleep Do We Know: Another fascinating movie that talks about how we can create our own reality,  how we can become creators of the lives and experiences we want to lead.  Again, quick watch by a mix of spiritual teachers, famous scientists and doctors.

 

deluxeYou Can Heal Your Life: This movie is based on a best-seller book by Louise Hay, one of the pioneers of self-help and the founder of Hay House Publications (Dr. Wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra, Doreen Virtue’s publisher). It talks in simple terms on how you can heal from anything through self-love. It shows you practical tools like affirmations to help you start your journey of self-discovery and self-love.

 

chakra-clearing-audio-download500hChakra Clearing: This book by Doreen Virtue is a quick, easy read that gives you a basic introduction to Chakras, the body’s energetic systems and how they affect or respond to our overall well-being. The best part of this book is the guided meditations that come with purchase – there’s a morning and an evening Chakra clearing meditation that are absolutely amazing and effective.  It helps to unlock your intuition, cut chords from things that are no longer of use and start to step into your true divine self.

 

burning-sageSaging: This is a Native American tradition of cleansing. You can purchase a smudge stick (usually made of white sage) from a health food store or a local metaphysical book store. Simply light the sage and let the smoke clear you, your home, work space of any negativity or low frequency energy. As the smoke emanates through your space set the intention of clearing the space of negativity and filling it with light and love. (Setting the intention = literally thinking it or saying it out loud, it’s not more complicated than that.) Make sure you have something underneath it to catch the ash so you don’t leave a trail to clean up afterwards! And be mindful of indoor sprinkler systems – you don’t want to set those off unintentionally!

 

grounding_meditationMeditation: OK, I know, I know, it’s hard! That hamster in the wheel never lets up. Well, try guided meditations first. Listening to someone’s voice will help you focus your mind and keep it from wandering. There’s a slew of great ones out there, Doreen Virtue’s chakra clearing meditation, mentioned above, is fantastic. I’ve put together a few on my YouTube channel, the grounding meditation is the one I send to my clients the most.  Meditation is the quickest, if maybe not the easiest, way to reach into your own spirituality. It’s a chance for the ego to take a vacation so you can listen to who you really are at the soul-level and connect to the Divine. For all the answers we seek lie within, we just need to quiet ourselves down to listen.

 

childs_poseYoga: Oh how I love yoga. This is a great way to get your body moving and start connecting your breath with your movements and it’s a great way to honor your body and give it some love. Now, don’t go crazy here. Start slow, don’t push yourself. This isn’t a practice in who can stretch the furthest or who has the most strength, this is all about quieting the mind and allowing your breath and your body to move in harmony. Think of it as a form of moving meditation. Another chance to get the ego to quiet down and to get in touch with how you’re feeling. Then the Shavasana or meditation at the end of the session (which is really the goal of the whole thing) is a lot easier and recharges your battery for the rest of the day. If you have a membership to a local gym, check their classes, they probably already offer one for free. If not, check your local listings and look at the reviews. Start with basic flows vs. classes that focus on strength or endurance.

 

hhulive-vegas2017-hhbanners-350x500_1Hay House Conferences: Hay House Publication puts on great conferences made up of their authors on a variety of self-help topics. This is a great way to get an intro into many different topics that you maybe unaware of. Things like past life regression, self-love, spiritual connection, mediumship and more. I’ve done the I Can Do It conferences a few times, the Writer’s Workshop and the Certified Angel Card Reading Course. I’ve loved them all. There were a few presenters that didn’t resonate with me but the vast majority did. Like with anything, take with you what resonates and leave the rest behind.

 

dscn1477Find Your Connection with God: Whatever your religious beliefs or upbringing, it is essential that you develop a healthy relationship with God, Source, the Divine, the Creator, whatever you want to call it that feels right to you.  Know that you are part of something bigger, that you’re part of a larger plan and that you’re here for a reason. Know that your soul is eternal and goes from lifetime to lifetime learning lessons, helping to heal, striving to become whole. God is your co-pilot through this journey. Whenever you need guidance, assistance ask God or Jesus or Buddha or Angels or other Ascended Masters for help and look for signs that your prayers have been answered. The Divine always respects our free will so intervention will not occur unless we ask. Prayers are a great way to start building that relationship with the Divine.

final_coverAnd last but not least, I would encourage you to pick up a copy of my book: Why Are You Sick? Going Beyond Symptoms to the Root Cause I know, I know, this looks like a shameful plug, but I assure you, it’s not. In this book I’ve put together everything I’ve learned on my spiritual path to my own self-awareness as well as insights from my Reiki students and clients. I tried to write it with the intention that anyone can pick it up and read it regardless of what existing spiritual background they have. I wanted to write something that would inspire, provide clarity and practical steps that will leave the reader with a greater sense of self and wholeness.

So there you have it. My Top 10 Picks for a Hearty Spiritual Recipe. From these I hope you’ll be introduced to new topics that you’ll want to explore. Follow your heart. If something doesn’t feel right or doesn’t inspire you than leave it there and pick up something else or try it again later. Don’t force it. You’ll know when you’re on the right path because you’ll feel lighter, happier and inspired.

I’ll leave you with a few of my favorite quotes from two women that inspire me a great deal:

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Many blessings to you on your journey!

Francie

Reiki at the Polls

This week is a perfect opportunity to utilize your Reiki skills as you head off to vote this Tuesday. Remember, Reiki isn’t just about healing, it provides clarity, peace and understanding. So here are some quick tips to help you get through the week:

Before you go to the polls:

  • Reiki II practitioners, use the distance symbol to send to the polling location ahead of time. Add the mental/emotional symbol and set the intention that you will have a clear head and that you will vote in a way to further encourage the light of the world to shine.
  • Reiki I practitioners, you can set the same intentions and turn your Reiki hands on asking that Reiki be released to you when you get to the polls.
  • Everyone should use their visualization skills to envision who they’d like to see win and how they’d like to see the country evolve. Remember, if you feel like it’s already happening, i.e., your candidate being sworn in, then the Law of Attraction will bring that experience to you!

At the polls:

  • Envision a white light bubble completely surrounding you, and ask that it protect, shield and guide you during the process.
  • Ground your energy. Make sure you are connected to this earthly plain so you can help make sound earthly decisions. Imagine you have tree roots coming out the bottoms of your feet, securely anchoring you to the earth.
  • Reiki II practitioners, use the power symbol and the mental/emotional symbol over your ballot and your ballot booth. Not only will it help with your voting, but it will leave the booth you’re in filled with the same, powerful Reiki energy!

After the polls:

  • Picture a beautiful white light completely encompassing the United States. You can even print out a picture of the country or a something that symbolizes the United States and send Reiki to it using all three Reiki symbols and the Master symbols if you are attuned to them. I like to print out pictures, draw all my Reiki symbols on the image, turn on my Reiki hands than sit with the picture in between my hands.
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  • If you have a crystal grid, add the United States and whatever outcome you desire into it and charge it with Reiki to give it an extra boost.

This is a very powerful and important time in our history. I pray that Reiki guides us and that we may all be filled with light, love and peace.

Many Blessings to you!

Francie