I often get asked by my clients and students, “Why doesn’t Law of Attraction work for me? I’ve watched the Secret, I’ve read the books by Esther Hicks, I have my vision board, why am I still unable to manifest what I want?“
Let me see if I can try and break it down. The Law of Attraction is a great introduction to manifestation. It shows that like attracts like and the basic principle is that all you have to do is tell the universe, “Hey Universe, here’s my list of things I want, make it so!” Here’s where that theory falls short:
The Secret and Law of Attraction fail to demonstrate how energetically you need to be in the groove with what you desire.
It’s not enough to state your desires to the universe like you’re ordering lunch. No, my friends, we have to be in the energetic frequency of that which we desire in order to bring it to us.
Let’s take a second and talk about physics. (Do not roll your eyes at me! ;)) Everything in the universe has a wavelength or a frequency, EVERYTHING. Your thoughts and emotions have a specific wavelength. Your car, the color of the sky, the air you breathe, butterfly wings, rocks, stars, space, etc.; every single thing in the universe has an energetic frequency to it. The term resonance is the reinforcement or prolongation of sound by reflection from a surface or by the synchronous vibration of a neighboring object. Resonance is when sound vibrations are in sync with each other, when two or more objects are on the same wavelength.
Within the context of manifestation, the Law of Resonance, better captures the spirit of manifestation. We have to be in the same energetic frequency or wavelength of that which we desire in order to attract it to us. We have to be in an energetic resonance with what we desire. Or in other words, an energetic match.
Let’s take money for example. Many folks want to manifest financial abundance but that winning lottery ticket continues to allude them. If you want financial abundance, you first have to get underneath why you want what you desire. It’s not really the money you want, is it? For most people what they really desire is the feeling that money brings: security, safety, freedom, being free of debt, worry and fear of the future.
Next, you need to find areas in your life where you already feel secure, free, and safe. Then focus on that, a lot. You might feel secure in your relationship or in your job or in your body. Focus on that feeling of security, feel it wash over you like a wave. Feel gratitude for being secure in different aspects of your life. Rinse and repeat with safety, worry free, freedom. It can even be a memory you’ve had in the past where you once felt secure, safe and worry free. Maybe as a child you felt that sense of freedom and security; tap back into that younger self to harness that energetic feeling and bring it forward into the present.
The Law of Dissonance is equally powerful. The Law of Dissonance is the idea that if two wavelengths are in the opposite frequency they repel each other. It’s like hitting two wrong keys on a keyboard that hurt your ears. No bueno. If you are not in an energetic match you can actually push what you desire further away from you. If you desire abundance but always feel your glass is half empty then you are repelling abundance. If you desire a loving relationship but you harbor self-hatred then you’ll never attract a loving partner. You can’t be looking at your bank account with the feeling of lack and then assume abundance will just magically show up because you cut a picture of a big bag of money out of a magazine and put it on a vision board. You are out of sync or you are in dissonance with what you desire. You can’t have both: lack and abundance; fear and love; health and sickness. You have to be all in with what you desire and get into the energetic frequency of that which you are trying to manifest in order for it to come to you.
“You can’t be looking at your bank account with the feeling of lack and then assume abundance will just magically show up because you cut a picture of a big bag of money out of a magazine and put it on a vision board.“
Vision boards and manifestation tools are a great way to remind you to be in sync with what you desire. But too many of us miss the point. It’s not enough to just ‘place your order’, you have to do the work to get into the energetic frequency or resonance of that which you desire. You need to use that imagery and feel as if it has already manifested. Feel what it’s like to be in that new car with that new car smell. Feel as if you are already financially secure because you feel secure in your job or relationship. Feel abundance through areas where you actually are abundant: health, relationships, love for self. Or if those are hard to attain then feel abundant that you are able to utilize your eyes and your brain to read this article right now. Start small if you have to. When you feel abundance then you are in the frequency of abundance, you’re now swimming in the same river of abundance and thus more abundance comes to you.